It is part of our human nature to seek recognition. We like to hear that we are doing well, that we are doing a good job. And why would motherhood be any different?
The truth is that becoming a mother already comes wrapped in expectations, doubts, and guilt. And in the middle of all that, we are often placed in a constant cycle of comparison:
Whether our child goes to daycare or stays at home.
Whether they attend countless structured activities or simply engage in free play.
Whether they eat only organic food or also enjoy the well-known packaged snacks.
Whether we breastfed until a certain age, used formula, offered a dummy, co-sleep, or encourage independent sleep.
Whether we share our daily lives on social media or choose to keep everything private.
There is no shortage of judgement – from others, and often from ourselves as well.
On social media, in particular, there seems to be an unattainable standard: perfect mothers, children always smiling, healthy, well-fed, everything happening at the “right” time, everything in its place. But is that truly reality?
In this space, my intention is to create a refuge. A place where mothers can feel welcomed, respected, and supported – because I know that in real life, that kind of support is often rare.
There is a lot of conversation about raising children with respect – and yes, that is one of my core values. But what about raising ourselves as mothers with the same respect? With more compassion and gentleness? Should that not be where we begin?
When we replace judgement with listening, and comparison with empathy, everything changes. Everything feels lighter.
Remember: your friend, your neighbour, or the mother you follow on Instagram is not doing better than you. She is simply living a different story. Our children have not even grown up yet – and every journey is unique.
Trust your intuition.
Listen to your heart.
It is the only one that truly knows how to raise your children.